Wednesday, 24 July 2013: One Hundred and Fourteen Days Old.
I had a bunch of errands to run today, and of course Baby Ayla came too!
I felt awful for her though as I had to hustle her in and out of the car over and over again, sometimes for a stop that took just a few minutes.
A couple of times I found myself torn between which “don’t” to abide by;
1) Don’t wake a sleeping baby
2) Don’t leave your baby in the car
Don’t worry – of course I took her with me – but it got me thinking about parenting’s unspoken rules.
As a parent I feel my actions are continuously on show, open for judgement by everyone and anyone who feels the need.
And that’s where the rules come in; everybody operates according to the set of rules that suit them best.
I know that every baby and every family is different, but it means there’s a massive void between what’s considered right, what’s wrong and what’s borderline.
I know I shouldn’t let myself buy in to other people’s judgement, but it’s hard! I only want the best for Ayla and this realm of motherhood is completely new to me.
So who am I to know what’s best? What gives me the right to ignore the advice and experience of others?
It’s certainly food for thought.
One thought on “Unspoken rules”
For me it helped to postpone everything that was not super important. However, some things cannot wait. So of course there were situations where I wished I could be at home with my baby rather than doing a visa-run with him or standing in line trying to get him health insurance, passport etc.